Well, it can happen with anyone. It’s not that you have a list of things that you want in someone and you match those things and then fall in love. No. Things might be opposite to what you have expected. Things you never expected are always there in the one you fell for. Let us take an example. You call it that you have a crush on someone. Now this is a statement for those who think they have chances for developing feelings for someone or they already have and they are just not ready to announce the news for now.
Now if you ask someone “Why do you love’em?”, 80% of the audience will just say, “I find them cute” and rest 20 will go for “I don’t know”.
Well, doggies are cute and so is your sister?
Why this sudden cuteness for one girl or a guy developing butterflies in your stomach?
This is because of the situation, your mood, the timing, your adrenaline level, your testosterone level, your heart rate, because of how you looked at them how they reacted towards you. Everything lines up and no matter how illogical or weird the opposite one is, and no matter how awkward and impossible it might seem. Bamm!! Welcome to hell.
Though I said welcome to hell, I might be totally against that myself, because it’s awesome in few cases and very nice to be in love or whatever.
Let’s talk about you.
Ladies first. So, if you are a female and are into someone, there might be chances that you are:
Confused, happy for no reason, thinking about how you look and now you are controlling your eating habits (surveyed by few female mates), you look more into mirror these days, every love song is about you, you suddenly don’t go nuts about everything, you are not judgmental to people, you adjust your rack to show more, and all the crazy stuff. Taking everything in consideration mostly you will be confused, so confused that you question yourself, “Is this me?”. Yes, this is you and you are going to be in love pretty soon or you already are.
Now before telling you further I must assure you being a man, that if you go and tell him you love him so madly, chances are, he will say yes, he’ll sleep with you and then leave you in your pathetic life.
I know that you know this and you are not that dumb to propose, you give indirect signals and wait for him to get to you, he dates you falls in love with you and then suddenly “You don’t feel like that anymore”.
You cannot do that either.
Confirm. Get yourself straight!
Let me help here.
You need a man who can take care of you.
Is he caring enough?
Ok moving on, you need a man who will listen to all you have to say.
Is he patient enough?
You need a man, who loves and respects his family.
And above all, I know that you can earn for your family, just as any man can do. But he is a man and he must have a tendency to provide.
He doesn’t needs to actually provide but he should possess a will.
Is he willing to spend for his family?
Got the answers? OK, well! Moving on.
Does anyone you know loves you?
Is he your best friend, your shy classmate or someone who thinks you will reject them and are just loving you hopelessly?
Take a deep breath now. I know you can’t think of them that way. But that way is just a sexual attraction that makes it different. Sex is not what you are going to do all your life, day and night, but this will effect your decision making drastically. You might be like well I didn’t thought about sex at all! It’s not at all my sexual desire! I fell in love with him! I don’t want to have sex. (Metamorphic! You always do.)
Well woman, relationship is different from friendship just because of sex, this is what makes it the closest of all relationships. You don’t have to think about sex to think about sex, we have an automated response system in our brains towards it.
Coming to the topic
Let us say you know a guy who loves you, give that guy a chance.
He will change for you, will be loyal to you, he will break mountains if it comes to you.
Don’t fill him with false hopes though, clear things to him first.
Tell him everything, see if he can be the guy, he will be stiff like a stick, very nervous, calm him down but don’t make him fall in love with you more, you can be the bad side of you with this guy all the time, see if he can take you. See if you can feel the same vibes as he does. Don’t force yourself to fall in love with him, but remember you must love the ones who loves you.
You know I have been all the guys through my life,
The one sided lover guy, the third wheel (boyfriend, girlfriend and their common friend), guy who picked up girls in parties, the guy who is secretly loved by many, the guy who had sex with his friend’s girlfriend,the guy who fell in love and was cheated, the guy who doesn’t feel love anymore, the guy who knows everything, have everything but still craves for the love he deserves.
I know how it works not because I have done some Phd in psychology, I know because I have been through this.
Have you ever known what you want? What is the thing that is needed in your life the most?
Money? Fame? Family? Love?
No, it is simply happiness, everything you have ever done in your life was for happiness, are you happy? Or are you forcing yourself to be happy?
The guy you are into will fall in love with you that is sure only if you believe and these are the secrets I am gonna pass on, that I have collected with research and experience and will guide you through it. I am very straight here in my sentences and want you to focus, because what you think is not what is the reality, it is different and I also know my words at last won’t change your perception at all but I will try my best to make you out of your romantic miseries..
Here is the first step.
Say ‘no’ simple yet effective, though you have to be wise with this word, it can be powerful, your single ‘no’ may make him move on to next target because you are not yet known worthy for his attaintion.
There are heavy chances that you have crushed for the most popular guy around, he is a player, maybe mysterious, maybe a project for you to fix.
Hold on girl, he is going for the tough, these kinds fall for tough targets, you got to be a hard to reach, but always visible.
First problem – are you ugly?
You are ugly aren’t you? Well, for ugly girls this is going to be tough, not because you are ugly, because you think you are ugly.
Stop right there!!
You are very beautiful, I have seen girls who think they are ugly and look pathetic just because they don’t seem to much care about how they look, in reality they are very beautiful and just don’t realize it.
Don’t go for make up, just wake up early, go for a walk, look at flowers feel the breeze, and have a positive mindset and you will be damn beautiful. It’s hard done than said, but I will walk right with you in making you look beautiful.
If you are insomniac, we have to fix that first. Let us try the technique that I use on my sleepless nights.
Go to bed after having a dinner. Drink some water, now the thoughts are ready to flood your mind and give you your mini heart attacks. Lie down in a comfortable position, try ignoring everything in your mind and concentrate on everything you see. Don’t turn the lights off.
Today you are not going to try to sleep like everyday. You are going to fuck everything that takes your sleep away. Take a deep breath. Exhale slowly. Concentrate on your breathing. Feel your heartbeat. Realize you are alive. Question yourself “What can be so important more than your life? Your precious peaceful life that can make you so anxious and panic?”
There is nothing in this universe, even if earth comes to an end today there must be no reason for you to care. Don’t ever say that you don’t care. The moment you say that it means you actually care about it, like you don’t say that you don’t care about how my neighbor’s wife’s mother is dead or alive.
Now be careful and picture everything together without panicking. Be calm. If you are getting nervous, try to concentrate on your breaths.
When you have everyone invited in the party then imagine yourself painting them all black, darker than black, more darker. (Say iPhone black.) It will be all black for you, you will not be able to see anything, at least you should.
Then just breath and concentrate on inhaling and exhaling. You would be sleeping by now.
This is one of the things I do when I cannot sleep. It is not that it works every time for me, (P.S. Having a fight with my girlfriend while writing).
Okay, where was I ?
Yes, it will not always work, not at all if you are totally pissed off, but it is one of the tricks.
The real trick is to realize that nothing should affect you at any level, you might be thinking that I am turning you into some kind of robot telling you to not get affected, but since you are a human being you can eliminate things that makes you sad and empower things that makes you happy.
Fill yourself with beauty, by adding positivity to yourself, yoga, exercises, jogging, eating healthy, feeling good are not just for the supermodels, why are you ignoring yourself? Last guy you dated told you that you are pathetic? Or your parents are not supporting? Or just everything seems to be against you?
Just hold on there lady, love is not nessesary, it is not that you must be with someone to live, don’t take it as your prime priority, your priority must be water, food and oxygen basic and majorly happiness.
Your happiness will attract positive people around and make you someone everyone is attracted towards, your sadness is what is making you what you are right now, stop being yourself and be awesome instead.
This one will defiantly make your confidence boosted at levels no one can reach.
Go look yourself into a mirror. Get up and go to a mirror. (Reflection on your screen won’t work.)
I think you all must have done it somehow but I am gonna tell you how to do it right.
Look into your eyes. Yes inside your iris. Speak in a loud audible pitch like you speak when you are a bit angry on someone. Don’t go all shouting, just a bit aggressive will do. Ask yourself: who are you? What are your dreams? Do you dream enough? Are you fucking out of your mind? Why are you trying to waste all you have done in pursuing something that is so unimportant? You are not only getting hated by the one you want to love you, but also getting hated by the ones who already love you.
YOU WILL MAKE HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, if not then someone will come by soon and that someone will be more than what you already want, but you are not going to make any serious effort to make that guy realize, if he doesn’t, be it, love is your choice not your salvation you will choose someone better it’s all about what you need not at all about what you want.
You can improvise with words obviously as per your condition and situation, this book is going to cover everything that is ever needed to know about love just stick around, I will make sure that noone gets anymore of this nonsense feeling of being rejected and not being acknowledged.
Well bro you are reading this that means you already pathetic and emotionally broke, or maybe you are just curious how to score those girls easy and get your job done.
The first thing I should say to you is, stop being a puppet, you are being controlled, by those movies you watch, those songs, basically the media. Even if you are not much into movies and all, guys around you are so much into being fake that you sometimes think of changing yourself. Well, it’s time to be than to become.
Look at yourself? Already joined a gym? Bought a motorcycle? Socially active like a faggot partying in a dead raccoon’s corpse? Or do you envy those guys because you can’t afford? or your parents just won’t allow? Don’t have a fashion sense? Oil dripping from your head and with full sleeves in middle of the month of June while you wait for your placement in a company studying in a college where you got bullied and ignored by all those famous alcoholic chic magnets?
Well there is a third kind of men also available, who starts their day with a shot of a bong! Har har mahadev!! , fighting on who will bring the stuff from the peddler and thinking that last time you smoked it, it was much more seed than weed.
Oh! Your bro just got his leg on your favorite chillam!
“Bro I am hungry, kuch order kar de.”
“Bro dad ne paise nhi bheje hai kuch udhar de de na.”
“Oh man we know everything about the world let’s talk about cosmos and religion. ”
“Bhai roach bana de na.”
If you are high kind of men then my friend you need help. Do not think I don’t have any, ‘idea’ about all of you guys because trust my word I have been the stoner guy in my early days.
I am a musician by profession, and that too a blues country kind of, so you can figure.
It is tough, I know, all that engineering, all those assignments, or your boss if you are in a job.
It is tiring and you just want to run from everything, and what you end up doing best is to get a vacation followed by Instagram updates, Facebook wall putty and all, faking your miserable life to be awesome in front of everyone.
We will talk about life in my other book, if I have enough time to write one for you, but this one is for love.
So, you love this girl, or kind of like her?
If you have no guts to talk to her then soon misery is going to fall upon you. This situation is a cocoon for depression because soon you are obsessed and you loose.
Key to make a girl fall for you is confidence, and that is what is going to make the difference. If you even slightly, I repeat, even slightly fall in love with this girl you have lost her already, because when you fall in love you don’t think straight, you are out of words, you might even black out.
Try not being yourself for a moment, well this is not the mainstream slogan these days, or perhaps the opposite, but you create a mystery about yourself, you are no more an open book. You are a guy who is into this girl and is afraid of nothing, not even her rejection. Risking it all is the only way to do it, or just live your boring life as you do everyday.
It is your love story, might end in tears but the best love stories always has ended in tears.
If it’s yes, then happy ever after, and if a no then you have a story to tell about how much you loved someone.
Now confidence is not something that you can buy from a peddler, unless you are buying methamphetamine.
Confidence comes from inside, your soul will be shouting!!
For that the first thing that you do is that you have to be mature, yes you can be a kid at heart, watch cartoons, shin chan, play Pokemon go, be crazy about manga comics, no worries there but you must look like you know what you are doing.
Check out what you are doing, what will be your profession, now get passionate about it. Whatever job you are going to get in future concentrate more on planning about that than the girl you love.
Get new clothes for gods sake. You might be stuck with your routine clothing and buy same things from stores just because you don’t have enough guts to experiment.
Look good, do not use makeup, not at all. Clean yourself, your pubic region, stick with a perfume that is appealing. If you spend some time on grooming yourself in a day you are building yourself up, it will enhance your power to communicate and you will be confident like a lion.
Please, do not make a joke out of yourself after reading this by wearing aviator glasses at nights or leather pants in summer. Choose your clothes wisely.
T-shirts and jeans are enough with boots well matched with belt.
Comfortable flip flops and wear colors that present your mood.
This is not just for the love of your life, you will get a better job, reliable friends and your life will change by just how you present yourself.
Now, second thing, stop being a perv and lure around girls, give stares or pass comments. If you are that dude who can’t take his eyes off a girl’s rack or can’t stop to say or even think ill about girls you see passing by then you have mother issues, not enough love from mothers makes people like this, not your fault. Kill yourself or start respecting.
I have had wonderful blow jobs and one night stands with girls from different states in India and if you meet a single one of them they will tell you what a gentleman I was to them, I respect every woman and my desire towards the women I met was never of getting them to bed. Those nights just happened with a flow and that was not just sex, it was pure and nothing felt wrong.
You all take sex as a need for your body. That is like the most illogical and senseless thing ever stated.
There is also this marathon going on to score as many chicks as you can, which has become a symbol for manhood in today’s lifestyle, and the reason behind is simply media, they just promote man whores as studds.
Must have watched desi porn you guys?
How pathetic they look while doing it? Now multiply that to a thousand, yes you look that pathetic.
If you will not stop taking sex as watching television, that is doing it for entertainment purpose then my friend, you are going to live a sad life.
Those minutes might fill you with pride and pleasure like you got a high, but all your life it will be a sad guy hiding behind a mask.
Trust me, leave that guy behind, become powerful, loyal, man of your words, let not your desires outrun you. Fall in love everyday, with every girl, see how beautiful they are, see how complicated is to understand what she is thinking about. She is the only reason for you, respect her, love her, admire her.
Now, you are well dressed, or in other words more confident, then second step, ask yourself,” is that girl a gold digger or someone who just uses men for her own good? Have you become too blind to see it? ”
Not in every case bro, but caution is important, just asking yourself will do, you don’t need to set up a private investigator to follow her, just question yourself, is she worth it? Now the famous quote from Bob Marley will come to its play -” if she is worth it she won’t be easy “. I am telling you, don’t take this the wrong way as everyone does, she will love you but she won’t be easy in other ways, not to fetch, well perhaps it might take a huge effort to impress her, but trust me if she is not into you, she is just not into you, it is not like you have a problem or you are not good enough for anything or will never be loved again and die alone in midst of your miserable life surrounded by alcoholic sadness compititions with your same situation” samajhne waale ” friends. Just get your head out of your ass bro, it’s wonderful to be with someone, trust me, it is not hard to love, to be loved, it’s just the new weird culture of India that is making all that nonsense.
We are not at all the western people, we had our own way to do things, actually if you see our culture and examine it really well you will find it perfect, while Western culture is purely a wild culture with really nothing humanitarian. Today they are at a phase where everything is getting together while we are trying to copy them and now somehow everything has become very confusing. Right now we are neither the Western culture nor we are ourselves anymore, this all mess is just because of us totally confused “sasural simran ka ” is very lame and” Friends” seems so cool, sad but true. It is true and the thing that makes Western lifestyle look so awesome is the way it is presented, it’s just a well perfected marketing scheme.
You guys must have heard about the menstuaration periods women suffer once in a month, well let me tell you guys something, guys too suffer from the same once in a month.
You are obviously very much exited about sex and the very word can make you search for porn and make you take your dick out even at the middle of your workplace.
But in these four days we are too much with all our manhood.
Notice yourself, once in a while you turn more angry than usual, get irritated with small things and blame things to be the reason for this situation. Well, the reasons you are blaming has always been there and you are just focusing on them at this point of time.
I have been not able to identify the exact time because we don’t have bloody party in our pants in these days but I am very much sure about it.
What are the basic traits you have? Concentrate.
Do you have a bad anger?
Well if anger grows in you it tries to find a way out.. Shouting much on your parents? Or your employees? Or bullying some junior? That’s is where your anger manipulates you and it seems enjoying because you get a chance to get your rage out anyhow.
If you get angry ever, let me tell you, things you do in anger are the most illogical and self harming. You will never think straight and become helpless, even if you know this, it’s not going to change the fact that you are going to drunk dial your girl and tell her all rubbish and make an idiot out of yourself.
Some of them are proud of their anger, they say and I quote” don’t angry me! “… Maybe it sounds serious to you, for me it’s like a helpless ant that came in the way while some bull was shitting it’s breakfast out.
Do not get angry, it will destroy everything you ever lived for. Anger is also a good thing at times, you can get all angry when your team looses a football match or some idiot is saying” dude look at that spankable ass”. You can get get angry and kill the guy right there.
No! anger is a bad thing, will make you weak. You must have control over it.
You are angry young man now, you can’t think straight have a little control over yourself and take deep breaths, count backwards from 10.
Reach zero and exhale, imagine anger getting out in red with your breath.
Now think of the person you are angry with, is he important enough for your wrath?
Acting against him will just signify that you can get back to him, will that make you any better than him?
Will a revenge right now satisfy you and you really don’t want to see him more miserable?
Asking that go run, burn some calories and just focus on everything you see. You can hit a punching bag or a pillow, anything that will make you feel tired.
If you don’t come up with something now, do as your anger says but remember you can make him more pathetic and helpless with some time taken.
If you ever think of having revenge on someone the best revenge is success.
My enemies are so jealous of me even right now, I am not at all a success as per in the meters of cars, bungalows or money. I am happy, that is what makes them burn. So just imagine, me just being happy can make them talk about me for hours, what will happen to them when I become the most awesome rockstar ever lived?
And that will happen very soon.
The girl I loved never loved me back, I get angry, write a couple of songs and be awesome.
What you do?
Get angry, get more angry, drink or smoke, drunk dial her, think about her and make her the highlights of your life. You are making that girl the highlight who doesn’t gives a shit? What are you doing with yourself?
Make a pact with yourself and get your dreams, if you are underestimating yourself then this is the time to get your life straight and become a man no-one ever thought you could be.
And that is how you meet the girl of your life.
I will summarize, respect every woman even if she is not worth it.
Be a man of your word, don’t act your anger, be confident of who you are, take risks, don’t be afraid.